For busy parents, postponing or cancelling date night is not uncommon. But according to experts, this shouldn’t be the case because couple time is incredibly important in preserving and strengthening the bond between husband and wife.
Why date night shouldn’t be forgotten
According toPsychology Today, going on regular dates with your spouse develops two things that are vital in any relationship: friendship and emotional connectedness. It continually stengthens a couple’s friendship, or ability of two people to have an open and honest conversation with each other, as well as the assumption they can rely on one another. If you are friends with your spouse, it will be less difficult couple to address conflicts and issues.
Emotional connectedness, on the other hand, is a quality that helps deepen a relationship. Psychology Today notes this quality helps generate sexual desire in many people, and we all know that sexual desire is a vital part of any long-term relationship. Regularly going on date nights can actually help bring back that desire that may have weakened throughout a couple’s time together.
Date nights don’t necessarily have to involve a lot of pomp and expense. The ideas below (many are suggestions of parents on the Smart ParentingFacebook page) will make the most of your special time with hubby.
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Try something new together
Remembr when you and your partner regularly looked for new activities to do together at the beginning of your relationship? Don’t stop doing it because trying out new experiences together is a great way to learn more about each other.
On the Smart Parenting Facebook page, some moms shared they and their hubbies would try out different restaurants, visit a different coffee shop each weekend, and go stargazing! Other ideas you can try are taking cooking or art classes and learning a new language together.
Catch up with one another
One of the more popular comments moms shared on our Facebook page is taking the time to have a real and proper conversation with their partners. Don’t forget the most important part: listen and pay attention.
Psychology Todaysays talking to each other about personal thoughts and feelings builds intimacy. Being a “responsive partner” makes their partners feel respected and appreciated. Regardless of whether your partner is talking about a funny thing that happened at work or an issue he has been struggling with, don’t forget to signal to him that you are actually listening and doing your best to understand what he is telling you.
“Being a responsive partner, and feeling like your partner is responsive to you, is really at the core of good communication and closeness,” Psychology Todaywrites. “When you feel like your partner really gets you, you feel like nothing else matters.”
When you hear the word “date,” the image you get in your head is dinner at a fancy restaurant and going somewhere together. For many married couples, though, going out for a date is not always the best idea, especially if they don’t have anyone who can look after their child while they’re away. In fact, many moms shared they don’t often get to go on date nights because of that exact reason.
The solution: have a date at home! Date nights don’t have to involve dressing up and going somewhere else. Even just sharing a simple dinner or watching a new movie or series together — which was a very popular answer for many moms on our Facebook post — can count as a fun and low-cost date. Just stock up on your favorite snacks, cozy up in bed or on your couch, and turn on the TV!
Other suggestions moms shared: munch on cheap snacks from the nearest sari-sari store or get food delivered to your home, give your spouse a massage, or play some Mobile Legends together!
Go on trips together
It’s never a bad idea to go on trips sans the kids. Don’t be afraid to ask relatives or trusted friends to look after your kids for a night while you and the hubby venture off to a place where you can reconnect and rekindle your romance. Finally, don’t feel guilty — cultivating your relationship with your spouse can actually help you raise happy kids!
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Don’t be afraid to splurge (sometimes)
Sometimes, it’s okay to spend a little more money on date nights with your significant other! Before date night comes, remember to plan ahead — maybe buy new clothes for the occasion, make reservations at your favorite restaurant, give your partner a gift, or buy tickets to a show by a musician or band you enjoy listening to.